Read on what i ve found through research is that trust is built in very small moments which i call sliding door moments.
Brene brown sliding doors.
People by nature are complicated and built for conflict.
Whether the behavior seeks to be outright cruel manipulative and spiteful or simply is an innocent omission of information a forgetful moment or just.
Dr gottman says in any interaction there is a possibility of connection with your partner or turning away from your partner in the following clip dr gottman shares an example of a sliding door moment in his relationship with his wife.
Remembering the names of family members.
Marble jar friends sliding door moments.
Brené brown is a professor and social scientist.
To choose not to connect when the opportunity is there is a betrayal.
Here s a passage from daring greatly one of my favorite books written by one of my favorite authors brene brown.
We must risk vulnerability in order to build trust and simultaneously it is the building of trust that inspires vulnerability.
I feel like i have a relationship with many of you on social media and you.
These moments are called sliding door moments after the movie sliding doors.
Trust is something that i battle with and i know many of you do too.
Gottman calls these the sliding door moments.
This speech was originally delivered at ucla s royce hall in 2015.
Every time we choose courage we make everyone around us a little better and the world a little braver.
Brene brown s research describes how she sees the paradox of trust.
Brown provides the following as examples of small ways that trust is built.